It’s understandable that you're feeling hurt & unappreciated, especially since the gift was thoughtful and aimed to make your boyfriend happy. When someone we care for doesn’t acknowledge or express appreciation for our efforts, it can seem like our gesture has gone unnoticed.
Here are a few points to consider:
1. Different Communication Styles:
Your boyfriend may be showing off the boots as a way of expressing how much he likes them, even if he isn’t explicitly telling people that you bought them for him. Some people aren't used to acknowledging gifts publicly. It might not even cross his mind to do so, especially if he doesn’t realize how much it matters to you.2. Talk About Your Feelings:
It could be helpful to gently bring this up with him. You might say something like, “I’m really glad you love the boots I got you, but it made me feel a little unappreciated when you didn’t mention that I gave them to you. I’d love for you to acknowledge it, even just in private, because it matters to me.”
3. Intentions Behind the Gift:
Consider if your main intention was to make him happy or if part of you also wanted recognition for your thoughtful gesture. It's completely valid to want appreciation for your efforts, but it’s important to express this openly so he understands how you feel.
4. Overreacting or Overthinking?
You're not overreacting your feelings are valid. But it’s easy to overthink situations like this & assume the worst, even if there might be a simpler explanation. He might just not realize how much this bothers you.
Clear communication can help prevent misunderstandings and ensure both of you feel valued in the relationship.
Keep these points in mind as you reflect on your feelings and consider discussing them with your boyfriend.