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| Why Aren't Marriages Lasting Like Our Grandparents Generation!? Open Discussion |
This topic question "Why Aren't Marriages Lasting Like Our Grandparents Generation?" got huge attention (Over 700 comments and 220 reactions) on Facebook as published by Bannies.online Facebook Fan Page and share on The Single Woman Group. The reactions of members will wow you as ladies took to the comment section to express their views on this.
Read through the comments below:
Leland Heflin wrote:
We’re sick of giving our lives up to support you
Nat B wrote:
Because we have a choice, and higher levels of education, a much broader dating pool, access to more people and more perspectives. We have more options in absolutely everything.
I was born in the 80’s. I was in highschool when the internet became a thing… Before that your options were limited to what you had directly in front of you. If you wanted to learn you went to a library or turned on the tv to local channels. When you met a love interest it was at school or work or through mutual connections. We know more now and have access to the world. No need to suffer in silence if you’re unhappy because of social constraints.
Elizabeth Horstmann wrote:
Women can choose to leave and no longer have to put up with abusive behavior from their husbands. Before we didn’t have a choice but to live in misery being beaten, manipulated, r**ed, cheated on, all of it and any of it until the grave. It was either that or become a prostitute and be beaten and r**ed by multiple men.
Plus there was no other way to raise their children. They HAD too stay if they wanted themselves and their children to survive.
It’s sad though that now that we can leave we see how often we do.
In other words how often men are mistreating us 😞 Many of us have been poorly treated so many times we prefer
to stay single.
So many men are unable to partner up or even date anymore. Because the nice women have all been beaten down by the a**holes.
It’s a true crisis at this point. Who knows where we will go from here 🤷♀️
None of the younger generation wants to marry or have kids because they’ve all seen their parents go through it.
Sue Nolff wrote:
Our grandmothers could not have bank accounts of their own, could not vote, nor could they get a job with a wage to support a family. Their husbands were allowed to discipline them, as long as they didn’t leave an obvious mark. It was in our grandmother’s best interest to marry and create a home for her family for her own gain. There were very few other choices.
Em Louise wrote:
Because you stop doing all the things you did before you were able to call them yours.
Apparently as soon as you “have them” it’s the green light to stop trying and give the bare minimum. 
Speaking from experience. He always said “the romantic stages ends for everyone, it’s normal”
And I used to think…. “After 11 years, why didn’t I feel like that?”
That’s because it’s a load of crap 😘
Soraya Mota wrote:
Because we don’t have to put up with DV. It’s our birth right to live a much happier life and be surrounded by people who respect and love us.
Melani Hilton wrote:
Because nobody values work and dedication in a relationship anymore. There's too many easier options at our finger tips. Why work on something when you can move on to the next honey moon phase? That's the way people think.
Carissa Joy wrote:
An inability to delay gratification, the "me first" fast food culture: get it when you want it right now. Broken people who don't love themselves and can't be faithful to themselves let alone another person. Lack of God and sound values.
Lone Wanderer wrote:
Our grandparents generation:
Grandpa: no matter how she is, she is mother of my children and my responsibility and she is my partner in all
Grandma: he is my husband and he provide me and struggle whole day to provide for me and my children
Now:
He: She is hot and i can't live without her but her demands are too much and i am not sure if she is the one i am looking for
She: he is good but he doesn't provide for me enough and doesn't send gifts or forget about our dates and events.. like he doesn't really care for me
(And also there was no social media to post about how a man should be and how a woman should be)
Traci Brown wrote:
because most of our grandparents groomed our grandma into being submissive to them and made her believe that him and being a housewife was all that ever mattered.
Jennifer Parfitt wrote:
Because getting beat by your husband isn't acceptable anymore. We hold so much more value than just popping kids out and keeping a house clean.
April Greene wrote:
We learned that life is more peaceful without men
Adonica Lennece wrote:
Women realized that they are happier, and live longer, by not having another adult to take care of.
Elizabeth Young wrote:
Women make money, they raise the kids, take care of the kids and men never cared to grow exactly why do we need them the lectures 😂
Sharon Ann Wilcox wrote:
Because women have more freedom and independence to live a life that does not revolve around misogyny and men having control of every aspect of their lives.
Britney Sachs wrote:
Women have recognized that they don't have to tolerate a life in which they work, take care of kids, and are unpaid labor.
I think current statistics show 70% of marriages are ended by women (unsurprisingly). The happiest demographic is the unmarried, kid-free woman. I wonder why?
Interestingly, almost all men remarry, and usually soon after their divorce. Not the same for women. Married men are statistically happier.
Julie Ann wrote:
Because women do not have to depend on men financially. So men must be decent human beings.
Cassidy Bullock Wrote:
Because women stopped tolerating the lying, and cheating, and expect a partner not someone who makes them raise the kids or do all the housework alone while also going to work. Because women can do it alone and there’s no point in being a single woman/mother in a relationship when you can just be single on your own and not have the added stress
Andrea Reigns wrote:
What’s the point of men? They no longer protect or provide.
Sarah Henry wrote:
Marriages were a necessity for survival back then. Not anymore. Everyone has equally rights and capabilites for survival alone. You have to bring more to the table than a paycheck now.
Danielle Louise wrote:
Because 50 years ago a woman wasnt allowed her own bank account or to be housed without a man
Now we can
Olivia Ridener wrote:
Because partners have to be each other peace instead of their greatest tragedy. Men have to compete with a woman’s peace in being single. He has to contribute emotionally and have a level of maturity that helps to lift themselves up instead of dragging them down. I’ve found more peace being single than I have being in a relationship.
Kasie OByrne wrote:
Because we have a the ability now to get out of the toxic marriages and it was extremely difficult for women to divorce back then and if they did it was even more difficult to live on their own.
Teri Trujillo wrote:
It's almost like women aren't chattel anymore! GO figure! 🤪
Kim Mowat wrote:
The world in general isn't the same. Too easily distracted by phones, social media and the list can go on and on. Wayyy less masculine men out there these days. Ugh
Liz Jennings Shrum wrote:
Everyone is overworked and underappreciated with no time to enjoy one another.
Crystal Erickson wrote:
Because women are doing it all. Why feel and do it all alone while they just play video games?
Stacy Ann wrote:
Women are not forced to marry and stay in bad marriages.
Dawn Michelle wrote:
Women don’t have to tolerate clownery anymore with their own education, jobs, money and rights.
Amber Marie Schanz wrote:
Because people stopped working on their relationships. It's too easy to find someone new. The first sign of struggle and people leave instead of having open communication with their partner to move forward. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. It's green where you water it.
Piper Pie wrote:
Because women have economic power in a way they didn’t 60 years ago. A woman couldn’t get a freaking bank account in her own name until the early 70s.
Jennifer Steele wrote:
Because woman went to work, men became lax, and the system encouraged it
Jade Jones wrote:
Women are not longer owned by men and religion is dying
Бэлла Данкер wrote:
Because mens become more femine,tender with no clue what mature masculinity is.I don't want to share my life with a boy in a man's body,I don't want to explain myself every second and give instructions what and how to approach me,I don't want to be a mama to my partner.I want to be.Enough.Happy.With all mood and life changes.
Kaylyn Larissa wrote:
Social media, men aren’t men anymore, they are boys and more dependent on women than we are them. Women are sick of being used and abused and we are putting an end to it. Men say they want an independent woman but what they mean is that they want a woman to still continue acting like we don’t work all day and still continue doing everything around the house. We hold them accountable while their moms ruined them and their dads weren’t present to teach them how to be men.
Fatima Ruqayyah wrote:
Because all of that having another family on the other side of town, we ain't going for that. 🤷🏾♀️ a lot of grandmother's say "as long as he comes home & the house is taken care of"
TUUUUUHHHHHHHH!!!!
Angela Johnson wrote:
People don't have any respect, morals, or ethics. Guys think they're in control, technology has made it easy to cheat, people are greedier than they used to be, nobody knows what love is anymore.